Several years ago I did an exercise that I initially did not get. But after giving it a go. I experienced a near miraculous change for the better in my life. I began the exercise with the clear understanding that my primary value was ‘honesty’ but by the end I was clear that it was ‘connectedness’. Honesty was still very important to me but only to the extent that it took me to connectness. If honesty stood in the way of connectedness then it is the honesty that gets out of the way. For example, once upon a time I would pride myself on my bullshit antennas. If someone said something that I felt was fallacious…I would call it out. This may be OK. But when I would do it with my Mother, problems would ensue. The move to connectedness would have big consequences as the blog ‘How to start the magic.’ will narrate.